Parenting Alternatives To Punishment In Building Self Esteem In A Child

There are particular actions, a parent should be aware of in helping a child build and grow in self esteem. There are does and don’ts that need to be explored. But most of all as a parent, we need to exercise alternatives to punishment of our children. Let’s explore this more.

Looking from a child’s point of view, things are much different. When you slap, hit, smack, spank, or scream at a child it frightens them, and/or makes them angry. And this might cause them to turn into their self. It also creates negative emotions, makes them feel insecure, unloved, and possibly vengeful. All the child knows is that someone whom he or she loves is causing him or her pain

Yes there might be some times that physical punishment might need to be administered, but this should be far and few between. It also needs to be done with the utmost care, and an explanation should be given to the child and assurances of your love. One should never do the physical punishment in anger. When you yell at a child it should only be for when immediate danger is present and could harm him or her or someone else.

Let’s explore the alternatives “the does” of correcting misbehavior. To be sure, each child is different and not all methods work for all children. So in all fairness, there are some basic methods that are effective with the majority of children.

There are many methods we will begin with these:

When you need to correct a child they should learn from their experience.

But when I child is very young such as when they are in infants A person of course, would teach them much differently than they would a toddler or a preschool child, but nonetheless it should be done in love with respect and is still needs to teach the child proper behavior.

There are some alternative guidelines that help to build self-esteem and show love and that you care about your child.

These guidelines all are:

* seek to meet your child’s needs.

* Childproof your home for very young children if at all possible.

* Consider your child’s feelings with empathy.

* Follow the Golden rule. Which is: Think how would I like to be treated?

* Make sure you and your child get proper nutrition throughout the day.

* Reassure your child of your love and give hugs, kisses, eye contact and your attention

* give your child choices.

* Take a minute to breathe take deep breaths-calm down.

Why does a child misbehave?

When I child misbehaves it is usually caused by frustration. They cannot express them self properly, or they are angry at someone or something. It is important for you to find out what has caused your child to act in such a particular behavior. It is also important to stop the misbehaver and calm your child.

If he or she is unable to tell you ask some questions and let them know that you see they aren’t happy or that they are scared are angry. Tell them that when you were little, you felt the same way sometimes. You can also ask if they are angry with you about something. For instance, being on the phone so much, as an example.

Until your child’s needs are met the behavior will surface some other way. It is important to help them by being a detective and figuring out what is causing the misbehavior.

Simplify for small children

If you have very small children, why keep your precious knickknacks in harm’s way. This creates temptation and stress for all concerned. Make your home child friendly. Those fragile knickknacks can be put away until your child is older.

How would you want to be treated?

Your child’s feelings are important. Consider how you would want to be treated if you were a child. That does not mean to ignore misbehavior, but is important to respect their feelings and treat them with love. They need to know that you’re not rejecting them because they are feeling the way they do. Your child’s feelings are real and they need to know you understand and care.

The Golden rule

The Golden rule applies to all humans whether a child or an adult. Treat your child and talk your child in the manner you would like to be treated and spoken to.

Nutrition

Eating a balanced meal for breakfast, lunch and dinner, plus a snack will keep your blood sugar at an even level. This helps you in your children to handle stress better and will help you to be happier. A full tummy helps the motor to run more efficiently

Loving your child

Loving your child and showing you love them all the time and even when they’re misbehaving is so important. Not only love, but appreciated for their uniqueness. Sometimes misbehavior is the only way they can express their need for attention and love at the moment. When he or she comes more mature, so will his or her way of expressing their needs.

Giving choices

While you’re helping a child learn to grow and self-esteem it helps to give them choices. With very young children, let them help by picking what they would like for a snack or if they want to go for a walk or go to the park to play. When they get to pick things it creates good feelings and helps them learn about making decisions. This also should be used in deciding what type of punishment should be administered for misbehavior. Additionally this teaches about fairness and consequences of different behaviors.

Taking time to breathe

Breathe, taking deep breaths when upset or stressed-out will help you calm down; count to 10. Even drinking a couple of chamomile tea will make a difference. Both you and your child will benefit from these actions. why? It will defuse a stressful situation giving you and your child time to think or reason.

Remember these are but a few methods of alternative actions to help your child learn to behave better. When you have met all your child’s needs, childproofed your home and considered your child’s feelings then you can move on to practicing the Golden rule. Thereby, teaching your child care about others people’s feelings by example.

Choosing right and wrong is a learned behavior when a child is very young picking what clothes to wear or what snacks to eat are all-important decisions and help to develop self-esteem. decisions on what choice of discipline is administered for misbehavior is a big help in growing and learning in self-esteem. Furthermore, it is a Way of applying alternate methods of punishment.

Alternatives to punishment

An alternative to punishments is a verified subject. There are many methods, and these are only a few even though they might seem unrelated. But when you consider all that is mentioned, you’ll see that they play a vital role in one way or another. Utilizing these alternatives will help to build self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth in your child. That child will be a good decision maker and a responsible person.

Recommended Reading

1. Building Self Esteem In Your Child
As parents, we are really responsible for developing self-esteem in our children. But what is self-esteem? In the simplest terms...
2. Parenting Skills Overview And Raising A Self Assured Child
Parenting skills are a broad subject about as broad as the variety of day to day events that occur in...
3. Doling Out Punishment To Your Children
Effective parenting involves both punishment and praise. Your reactions to misbehavior or good behavior should be tailored to fit the...
4. Help Your Child Control Their Actions By Controlling Your Own
As parents we often react to your child's misbehavior by an emotional overreaction. This can make you feel out of...
5. Parenting An Optimistic Child
Scientists and researchers report that a person who is optimistic has a longer life span, achieve more in life, and...